If You Plant It...

I want to dig up my back yard and plant all native drought resistant plants, some raised vegetable beds, a winding gravel path to the barnyard and an arbor with something tangley covering it.
Can you see it?
For some reason I can't explain it in a way that Six sees it and gets as excited about it as I am, but that could also be because he sees all the work that he's going to be doing to achieve our vision.
I just need to figure out where to start.
I also need to get the barn demo'd but that's another project, and it isn't a fun project, and every time I bring up my yard garden idea Six reminds my of the tearing down of the barn.
Ugh. I really wish I had more husbands.
Back to the backyard.
I want something like this.

Minus the cactus of course.
But you get the idea.
So how and where do you start something like this?
Obviously with a backhoe to dig up the lawn that taunts you, but after that, other than contacting a garden wizard what are the first steps.
And, Six just pulled out a bunch of rotten old fencing from the corner pasture by the road so now that's all open lawn but instead of lawn I want to plant a little orchard and some berry bushes, but do you know how expensive fruit trees and berry bushes are?
Holy cats man, I could buy cases of applesauce and bags of frozen berries for a lifetime longtime for what we'd pay for the real thing, let alone all the work I would Six would have to do planting, picking and trimming.
It doesn't matter, I'm still going to do it.
I wonder if there's a garden college that needs to take a "field" trip...